tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post3329135086550443821..comments2023-10-29T09:57:41.194-04:00Comments on From Fat to Fab: Three Friendships SeveredTammyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09903038555489140718noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-81654325212353938122009-07-25T13:03:13.010-04:002009-07-25T13:03:13.010-04:00Hi Tammy,
I have only just come across your blog v...Hi Tammy,<br />I have only just come across your blog via Sean's, isn't he amazing?<br /><br />I am so sorry you have had such a terrible time.<br />Sometimes friends even family have blinkers on and don't see the whole picture. I hope they come to their senses soon. But if they don't it is their loss not yours. You thought you were doing the right thing and if they can't see that,they are sad human beings.<br /><br />Best wishes<br /><br />SheilaghSheilaghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02774960303127922257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-6888419684917522142009-07-24T01:43:34.625-04:002009-07-24T01:43:34.625-04:00Hugs.. and more hugs.
Tammy... I'm curious a...Hugs.. and more hugs.<br /><br />Tammy... I'm curious about one thing.. and somewhat hopeful. I hear you emailed and texted alot.. but what if.. just what if.. neither got through? <br /><br />I'm not a texter.. and still believe in the old fashioned face to face, and/or phonecalls, when voice inflection, and body language can be heard/seen. <br /><br />Don't write off your friends yet. But know if they write you off so easily.. they never were friends. <br /><br />again... more hugs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-45967034956497472522009-07-23T22:02:43.730-04:002009-07-23T22:02:43.730-04:00Amy...thank you for that...it means more to me tha...Amy...thank you for that...it means more to me than you know to have the support and understanding that I've been shown by all of my blogging friends today. You guys are true gems.Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09903038555489140718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-36993998550669395082009-07-23T21:37:27.539-04:002009-07-23T21:37:27.539-04:00Tammy, I'm so sorry to hear about your friends...Tammy, I'm so sorry to hear about your friendship woes. It sounds as if the punishment does not fit the crime. Remember that we're all still here for you!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09579814438118079024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-4623644798593728482009-07-23T20:48:45.289-04:002009-07-23T20:48:45.289-04:00Blue Moon...thank you so much for sharing your wis...Blue Moon...thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with me. Believe me...all I have thought about for the last 2 days are mega buffets...but somehow I've managed to stay strong and stay within my calories this week. Still having a hard time tonight as there was even more drama today, but hopefully I'll make it through this trial. I think you're right in maybe this being necessary...this valley can only lead to a higher mountain with a much better view. Thank you for reaching out to me. :)Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09903038555489140718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-68514613610290485012009-07-23T19:31:59.206-04:002009-07-23T19:31:59.206-04:00Tammy, I'm so sorry you had to go through that...Tammy, I'm so sorry you had to go through that confrontation. Given the amount of time that had passed, it seems she was going out of her way to make you feel bad. I know that for me, in the past my most vulnerable times to break my healthy habits is when I have had some emotional attack. A big fight with my husband, an attack from my mother in law, etc. I don't know why, but it makes me feel like "whats the point". When our emotions are struggling we are all fragile. Stay strong, and don't try to heal with external, temporary coping skills - even though they are immediate, they are empty comfort. You sound like a strong lady with a big heart and a good head on your shoulders. Don't beat yourself up over this one. There is a reason for EVERYTHING. Maybe this growth spurt was necessary for the next step of something else - you know ? <br />Hang in there!Blue Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09004247933124305406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-30693381464949568422009-07-23T15:26:54.907-04:002009-07-23T15:26:54.907-04:00Jack....thanks for the attention and for the laugh...Jack....thanks for the attention and for the laugh I so very much needed today. I'm honored that you finally dropped by. :) Thank you.Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09903038555489140718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-3280952669422453972009-07-23T14:48:40.515-04:002009-07-23T14:48:40.515-04:00One more...
In case I miss the next post.One more...<br /><br />In case I miss the next post.Cole Walter Mellonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14792991151019418800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-46145209608907741182009-07-23T14:48:15.399-04:002009-07-23T14:48:15.399-04:00There, that's three comments in one week.
Su...There, that's three comments in one week. <br /><br />Surely, I'm caught up now. ;)Cole Walter Mellonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14792991151019418800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-56027726221886166042009-07-23T14:47:48.203-04:002009-07-23T14:47:48.203-04:00You're right, btw. You're a regular commen...You're right, btw. You're a regular commenter over on JSGF, and I really need to do a better job reciprocating.Cole Walter Mellonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14792991151019418800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-19479303542351450402009-07-23T14:44:30.777-04:002009-07-23T14:44:30.777-04:00I only lie when I don't want somebody to know ...I only lie when I don't want somebody to know the truth. ;)Cole Walter Mellonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14792991151019418800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-35550883750316243072009-07-23T10:19:00.094-04:002009-07-23T10:19:00.094-04:00Fat Free Me....thank you for taking the time to li...Fat Free Me....thank you for taking the time to listen, and to understand. I especially thank you for such a funny post on your blog last night. I literally laughed out loud and I sure needed that. I appreciate you always commenting on my blog. Thank you. :)Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09903038555489140718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-605897827347217572009-07-23T09:54:02.066-04:002009-07-23T09:54:02.066-04:00Ouch - that must be awful for you! Flippin heck, ...Ouch - that must be awful for you! Flippin heck, we all tell the odd white lie every now and then and I would forgive a friend if she did it to me too.<br /><br />I am sure as time passes you will feel a lot better about it, it sounds like these probably weren't the best friends to have around you if they can't be supportive or understanding, anyway.<br /><br />As Sean says, work on yourself for the time being and who knows what friends you make along the way!<br /><br />(((hugs)))Fat[free]Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09657562694069139967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-14680878690339802582009-07-23T09:38:37.105-04:002009-07-23T09:38:37.105-04:00Diane....thank you for your words Diane, and for a...Diane....thank you for your words Diane, and for always commenting on my blog. You're a huge inspiration to me in the way that you lost your weight, have maintained for 12 years, and are so willing to share your story with others. Thank you again and again. :)Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09903038555489140718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-30930409300464717872009-07-23T09:29:00.339-04:002009-07-23T09:29:00.339-04:00This is very sad for you, and I'm sorry. Seein...This is very sad for you, and I'm sorry. Seeing friendships disappear is very sad, whatever the reason. I lost my best friend when I lost all my weight. It was a combination of a lot of things, and it still hurts me, twelve years later.<br /><br />Time will heal a lot of this for you.Diane, Fit to the Finishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03563578757721307599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-52818082622292443882009-07-23T09:01:47.486-04:002009-07-23T09:01:47.486-04:00Rebecca....you're very sweet. Thanks for unde...Rebecca....you're very sweet. Thanks for understanding and offering your support. I appreciate you always commenting...I really enjoy reading them. :)<br /><br />Pam....this is why I haven't been emailing much in the last couple of days. It's just been rough. Maybe we can talk some today.Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09903038555489140718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-3339007637291928162009-07-23T07:53:39.551-04:002009-07-23T07:53:39.551-04:00You know I had a similar situation with my online ...You know I had a similar situation with my online Mommies group earlier in the year, only it was over something I got judged for doing that I didn't even do. <br /><br />All of the sudden, these ladies that I considered family all turned their backs on me. NONE of them came to me and asked if what was being said was true, they just decided that it was and left me in the dust. It was totally devastating, so I feel that searing pain you're feeling, and I am so sorry. <br /><br />I truly believe that God has a reason for everything, and maybe these ladies would have stood in the way of all that you are becoming somehow. Everything will work out exactly the way it should, and you will be the person you were meant to be because of you, and only YOU!<br /><br />Looking back now, if all of that would not have happened to me, I would have never gotten into my weight loss blog and met all of these wonderful people who have helped me so very much in my journey, and I wouldn't we where I am today, so in spite of the pain (which still stings every now and again when I think about it too much), I am grateful for how things are. <br /><br />I'll be praying that you get there soon, too. I'm here if you need to talk - I love you!!Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15462280506557043575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-4571451565825515292009-07-23T04:31:13.705-04:002009-07-23T04:31:13.705-04:00Oh, Tammy, I'm so sorry to hear about all this...Oh, Tammy, I'm so sorry to hear about all this. You seem like a truly good person, and I'm sure whatever it was that you lied about was not enough for you to deserve to lose three friends over it. I wish I could be your friend right now to help you with this, but I guess I'll settle for the occasional blog comment, heh. Hearing stories like this makes me wonder what's wrong with women sometimes. I don't know any men who would act like this--turn on their friends in an instant because of a mistake, or because of something they heard from someone else. Lying to save someone's feelings is completely understandable to me, and I'm sure you did what you thought was the right thing at the time. Just focus on you right now--all the great things about you, and how to keep bettering yourself with your new lifestyle. It's really awesome that you didn't spiral into a comfort food binge today. Stay strong, Tammy, I'll be praying for you.screwdestinyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777895976599010393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-64172472351459412882009-07-23T01:47:47.346-04:002009-07-23T01:47:47.346-04:00Sean....where would I be without you? Where would...Sean....where would I be without you? Where would all of us be? Probably face down in the middle of a cheesecake. Thank you for your continued support, your excellent advice, and above all, your friendship. I've learned in the last couple of days just how important that is.Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09903038555489140718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6654199466450477041.post-74386213953725887082009-07-23T01:40:37.615-04:002009-07-23T01:40:37.615-04:00Tammy,
You know in your heart that your intentions...Tammy,<br />You know in your heart that your intentions were pure and you were trying to spare your friend heartache. Listen, I know this must be tough to deal with right now, but I want you to remember something... Time heals all wounds.<br />Time is an amazing thing. I hope you understand the power of this truth. TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS. <br />As hard as it might seem, you must stay true to yourself in the face of this development. Understand that you're headed to an amazing place---not just physically---but emotionally. I've transformed more in my brain than in my appearance. You will too.<br />Let some time pass with these people. While that time is passing---focus on you. Keep your focus on you and your journey. It's the most important thing in your life right now, remember? Make it that way---and time will pass. Your transformation will get better and better---and a whole new world and way of dealing with issues will open up for you. Will your friends mentioned above also develop? Maybe, maybe not...But you can only control you and your journey. Focus on you Tammy---Let time do it's job with these people. You can do this Tammy---You're doing it. Don't let this situation bring you down---that would only compound bad feelings within you. Grasp on to the wonderful positives of the amazing breakthroughs you're experiencing right now---and focus. While time takes care of the rest. When you catch up later, you'll be a different person Tammy---in appearance and mind.<br /><br />Blessings to you---You're a wonderful blogger and friend---I see in you the ability to do amazing things...I know you're seeing it too.<br /><br />My best<br />SeanSean Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07973189725254566966noreply@blogger.com