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Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Picture of Brittany


This is my youngin' in her prom picture this year.

I talked to her on Facebook for a few minutes this morning.  She's terrified of telling her mother that she's ready to meet me.  She said she is ready to meet me and "this side of her family", as she put it, but she said her mom is very fragile and emotional, especially since Brittany's dad passed away last November.  Brittany said this is a huge, important thing and is just trying to spend a little time thinking of how to mention it to her mom w/o her mom taking it the wrong way and thinking Brittany is trying to replace her with someone else or any other such nonsense.

If you've never been part of an adoption process let me tell you....it's emotional, highly stressful and downright messy.  It's nerve-racking, consuming, and full of fear.  There was a highlight to today's conversation though. 

Brittany said she wanted to specifically tell me that she doesn't hate me, never has, and actually wanted to say a huge thank you for giving her to her parents instead of snuffing out her life like I could have with an abortion.  She said the last 19 years have been fantastic for her...being raised by the best parents in the world, and she wouldn't change a single thing....

I can't tell you what that did for my heart.....I really needed to hear that.  It starts the healing on some wounds that have laid bare within me for many, many years.

No matter how long it takes for us to meet....if we ever meet, due to her mom's reaction...doesn't really matter.

Either way....Brittany is a blessing.

22 comments:

  1. OK, the daughter is hot... So happy this is working out, and she sounds very intelligent and open. Good for you !!

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  2. She is quite beautiful...and she's quite a young woman to realize that in her young 19 years. Obviously, she has her Mom's genes!!!

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  3. Beautiful - both Brittany and this post. A blessing indeed.

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  4. oh Tammy, she is beautiful!! And yes, a very big blessing for you!! Things will eventually work out. I pray that her mom has the strength to let her meet you without the feeling of guilt. Maybe the 3 of you could meet for the first time?
    I'm proud of the way YOU are handling the emotional side of this! (((hugs)))

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  5. This is wonderful, Tammy. Brittany sounds like she has it together. She's smart and caring. You should be proud!

    I hope you do get to meet her someday. One can never have TOO many people caring about her and I'm sure her mom will come to terms with it. Thank you for saving her life and giving another couple the chance to love her.

    She looks a lot like you, by-the-way.

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  6. WOW - she is beautiful just like her Mom.

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  7. She is beautiful. What a blessing to you!

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  8. Oh hearing that makes my day Tammy! I wish I had been able to tell my bio mom that too.

    She is soooo pretty!!

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  9. I'm really happy things are going so well and that she said all those tihngs you needed to hear. She's a beautiful girl and I see you in her a lot. I hope it all works out for everyone, her adoptive mother also as I'm sure she's having a rough time these days.

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  10. Brittany is a younger you. WOW!!!
    She definately will recognize you.
    ((hugs)))

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  11. How wonderful! She's as pretty as you! I hope you and she can be close. What a special blessing that has come your way!

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  12. My gosh, she is the spitting image of you! Wow, that must be so neat to see. She sounds like such a beautiful person - you must be so proud.

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  13. She is beautiful! She looks just like you!

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  14. you totally look alike. :) Sooo happy you got to hear that from her this morning...

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  15. Tammy, she is lovely and she looks a lot like you.

    I hope that your meeting goes well. *hug*

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  16. Brittany is Gorgeous, just like you.

    You have a beautiful daughter with a beautiful attitude, just like you.

    Be very proud little sis xxxx

    hugs

    She
    xxx

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  17. Your daughter is beautiful--looks a lot like you!

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  18. You gave birth to her, so you are a blessing to her as well.

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  19. Did she give you permission to post her picture on the internet?

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  20. Brittany is beautiful Tammy and I can see that she looks like you! I think you are handling this situation with grace and sensitivity to Brittany's feelings and that of her adopted mother. I'm sure that you are nervous and excited about meeting her. But rest assured that it won't take her long to see what a wonderful person you are!

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  21. Just catching up on post, she is gorgeous and sounds like she has it all together

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  22. So nice that you can converse the way you are now.

    Of course I echo everyone's sentiments about her lovely heart and appearance. I think your fan club here would enjoy seeing a pic of YOU at that age, although somehow I think we just did. =)
    Love, Chrissy

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