I hate people. Lol. Not all people...but a lot of them. There are large parts of society that I disagree with, for several different reasons. One of the reasons being from the political aspect, but weight loss blogging is hardly the venue for me to express my views on that. If I ever start a political blog I think I'll name it "The Rabid Republican". :)
The part of society that has pissed me off this weekend is the part that judges people based on their weight. I said early on in this blog that food addiction is the only one that's not accepted by society. Fat = gross. You can be addicted to 9 different illegal substances and drink enough alcohol in your life to drown a small nation and we'll open our arms and our hearts and put you in the best rehab place we can find, patting you on the back, sympathizing with you while you fight your demons, and praise you for every day you resist temptation. But if you're fat...or better yet, obese....well you're not worth our time, trouble, sympathies or praise.
Yesterday Dwayne and I were moving some stuff to the new house. While driving down the road we were listening to one of our local rock stations on the radio and during a commercial break, the female dj came on and said that she had read something that "really disgusted" her. She read that 2/3 of Americans are obese. "How gross is that?!?!" I immediately felt the sting...embarassed in front of Dwayne, sitting there in all my obesity...and I shot the radio a bird, said out loud, "Oh does that disgust you??? Well maybe you should KILL YOURSELF!!!" I was in defense mode because I was embarassed and ashamed. Not just in front of Dwayne...in front of all of society.
Dwayne said, "Baby...she's a stupid loud-mouth rock station radio dj who probably goes out 5x/week snorting coke and sleeping with everyone she meets. Her opinion doesn't count...don't let it get to you." My response to that is, "Unfortunately, as unimportant as she and her opinions may be, her voice represents a large part of society. She is not alone in her opinions...she just works in a venue where she's able to blast them over the radio waves." And then I got a little teary-eyed.
Dwayne pulled over into a parking lot, we got out of the truck, and he came around and gave me a big hug, holding me and kissing me, called me his "cutie", and told me how he knows I'm working my ass off to get healthy and he's proud of that. He told me to keep my eyes on the goal and to hell with the part of society that doesn't show compassion and feels the need to judge....that I shouldn't give people like that the time of day.
He's right. I shouldn't have given that girl the power to ruin my day or rule my thoughts with negativity. I shouldn't have said maybe she should kill herself....that was over the top. I don't feel bad about shooting her a bird though. She at least deserved that much. I shook it off and Dwayne and I enjoyed the rest of our day together. But still....I will be so glad when who I am is not defined by society by the number on the scale. I am so much more. We all are.
Quote For The Day:
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt
4 months ago